The Black Family Reunion You Aren’t Attending!



*Only scene names were used to write this piece.


It’s the Black Family Reunion you aren’t attending this summer! Weekend Reunion (WR) offers fun, BDSM and fetishes! Yes you read that right! BDSM and fetishes!

“Weekend Reunion is the only national three day black BDSM event in existence,” says cofounder *Coffeebaby. Weekend Reunion takes place the first weekend in August in Piscataway, New Jersey. Right now Black kinky folks are taking over in Piscataway!

WR is a sex positive event that embraces black culture and BDSM with integrity, transparency and elation. I attended the first WR in 2013 and left with a new outlook on life! It is a beautiful environment where you can truly be your authentic kinky self.

Created by a trio of sexy ladies, they sought to fill a void among the hundreds of BDSM conventions that take place nationally. I interviewed Coffeebaby about this niche event. “We created Weekend Reunion to fill the need for an annual BDSM event that celebrates black culture.“

Many people of color find it difficult venturing out into the BDSM community, which is really a smaller version of the vanilla/regular world. Black people fight to be seen as human beings every day in America so it is no surprise there is only ONE national event for us, by us.

Although the event celebrates Blackness, Coffeebaby is all about the U-N-I-T-Y! “We welcome all ethnicities, and there haven’t been any complaints regarding us celebrating black culture.” When I attended there were faces that didn’t look like mine and that was okay. I felt like any and everyone was accepted just as they were.

If you haven’t heard of Weekend Reunion, don’t feel too bad. With the help of social media and positive feedback from attendees the word is spreading about this uniquely kinky event.

The convention blocks out an entire hotel so guests don’t have to worry about being offended. That means walk your naked ass down the hallway if you want to! Feel like having a quickie in the elevator? I’m sure no one will mind. Just be sure to clean up afterwards. The freedom of your kinky crew taking over an entire hotel is some boss shit right? That is what WR is all about freedom to be you unapologetically.

The Reunion offers 24 hour paid security. You are always secure! Safe sex is also encouraged among attendees. Condoms are available in the play spaces provided. Numerous places throughout the hotel are set aside as group play space for all attendees. But if you want to have a side party in your room, then you can do that as well!

The organizers of the event conduct extensive surveying after every conference weekend. Those surveys are then used to integrate new ideas and suggestions for the following year. WR just keeps getting bigger and better. When I first attended it was only three floors of a hotel with only the top floor completely FREE and open. The location has also changed! When I participated, the event was in Maryland and now it’s in New Jersey. Change is good though!

WR offers the best workshops! There are orientation classes to help you learn about the rules of the event, socializing tips and playspace etiquette. The BDSM classes this year offer the best skills around. Classes especially for Flogging, Cane and Singletail whip mastery offer hands on training! I don’t know about you, but I learn from experience and seeing others. Keep in mind the lineup does change from year to year.

Attending a conference like this can be overwhelming. But there are some things you just don’t want to miss! “The outdoor play space and after parties are favorites of the event, and of course the twerk contest and a late night chicken buffet,” says Coffeebaby when asked about the popular events for most attendees. No black event is complete without fried chicken! Yessss! There is a late night chicken buffet for attendees! Late nights are so much fun at WR! The after parties usually have specific themes and everyone dresses up or down! Remember, nudity is always best if you don’t know what to wear at WR.

If you have some time next summer put Weekend Reunion of your calendar. You can play and party all weekend long with friends and online crushes you never knew you had!

Read about Being Black in BDSM.


Let’s chat on Twitter!

I’ve been reading this thread and thinking hard about my life thus far. I definitely had strict parents growing up who were also religious. This is #mindblowinh stuff. #childhood #growingup

Andisiwe not andiswa@Miss_Calita

People that were raised by extremely strict parents, how has that affected you as an adult?

Load More...

Leave a Reply


  1. Sabrina August 10, 2017 7:31 pm

    Well… That was definitely not what I expected to read 🙂 To be honest, I am not sure how I feel about it but then again everything is not for everyone.. We all have our comfort zones. Live your life honey!

  2. Toni August 10, 2017 12:42 pm

    Oh my! I’ve never heard of this. Makes me think of a particular Zane book Ive read. I am very intrigued by this.

    • oliviadsanders August 10, 2017 2:24 pm

      I think a Zane book can’t really compare to the experiences found at WR. I loved Zane books when I was younger.

  3. Kiwi August 10, 2017 2:52 am

    Wow this is something. I didnt know there was a big black BDSM community out there the more you know! You right I am not attending that family reunion lol

  4. Tiffany H. August 9, 2017 12:49 pm

    Very interesting! I don’t know much about BDSM but I’m not surprised they have conferences/convention. Does BDSM involve pain?

    • oliviadsanders August 9, 2017 2:48 pm

      Hey Tiffany! Some are into pain, some are not. There is something for everyone in BDSM.

  5. Eva August 9, 2017 8:02 am

    Not my thing, but looks like there’s something in this world for everyone.Have fun!

  6. Elle (CleverlyChanging) August 9, 2017 8:02 am

    Love the concept. When I heard about it, I thought it was a novel idea. Different people all different shades of brown, coming together to have a good time. Boom, this event is going to be epic!

  7. Courtney August 8, 2017 11:47 pm

    Oh wow. The phrase is definitely true when there’s something for everybody. I’m sure participants who are fans enjoyed themselves.

  8. Shantel Collins August 8, 2017 9:08 pm

    Well now, this is definitely something different. I prefer sipping my coffee in sweats and tee though… LOL…

  9. Chanel August 8, 2017 9:05 pm

    This is quite an interesting event. I had never heard of it and did not realize it was located so close to me. Enjoy your experience!

  10. Kristin Kimble August 8, 2017 9:00 pm

    Wow! Learn something new everyday! LOL…..very interesting

  11. Kita August 8, 2017 9:37 am

    Definitely not my type of event but for those that are into it, enjoy.

  12. Stacie August 7, 2017 9:11 pm

    Umm, okay I’m older and haven’t got a clue what your talking about but I think I can take a stab at it lol. Well, have fun hun.

  13. Natasha August 7, 2017 8:14 pm

    This is quite an interesting concept, and of course a little (okay, a lot) outside of my comfort zone, but I’m happy that there is a safe space for folks to let their hair down! It’s also says a lot about the hotel insuring that everyone stays safe too!

Post a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *